PARENTS (of gay sons or lesbian daughters)
DISCUSSION GUIDES, NEWSLETTERS AND PERIODICALS
Blumenfeld, Warren J. (Ed.). Homophobia: How We All Pay the Price.
The hidden costs of homophobia in family relationships, religious institutions, social policy, and other aspects of our lives. (Boston: Beacon Press, 1992).
Boswell, John. Christianity, Social Tolerance and Homosexuality.
Scholarly historical examination of what caused intolerance toward homosexuality. (Chicago: Chicago University Press, 1980).
Duberman, Martin Bauml, et al. Hidden from History: Reclaiming the Gay and Lesbian Past.
(Penguin Books Ltd, 1991)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN). www.glsen.org.
Hilton, Bruce. Can Homophobia be Cured? Wrestling with Questions that Challenge the Church.
What will the church do with the increasing realization that gays and lesbians are not a "they" but a "we," including devout and dedicated laypeople and clergy; our children, sisters and brothers; and people worshiping with us in the pew? (Book jacket) (Nashville, TN: Abingdon Press, 1992).
Human Rights Campaign. www.hrc.org.
Marcus, Eric. Is It a Choice? Answers to 300 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gays and Lesbians.
An honest, compassionate and comprehensive resource. (San Francisco: Harper Collins, 1993).
McNeill, John. The Church and the Homosexual.
The fourth edition of this classic that includes a history of the publication of the book and the letter from the Vatican Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith that removed the imprimi potest from the book and silenced the author. (Boston: Beacon Press, 1993).
National Center for Lesbian Rights. www.nclrights.org.
Signorile, Michaelangelo. Outing Yourself: How to come out as lesbian or gay to you family, friends, and co-workers.
"The stress of coming out will never be as hard on you as the stress of staying in was." Can help parents, siblings and friends understand the fear and pain associated with the closet. (New York: Random House, 1995).
Brawley, Robert L., Ed. Biblical Ethics & Homosexuality: Listening to Scripture.
Offers a challenge to the church to give heed to the multiplicity of voices that are engaged in biblically responsible and constructive debates about the volatile issues regarding sexual behavior. (Book jacket) (Louisville, KY: Westminster John Knox Press, 1996).
Helminiak, Daniel A. What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality: Millennium Edition Updated and Expanded.
"If people would still seek to know outright if gay or lesbian sex is good or evil...they will have to look somewhere else for an answer. . .the Bible seems deliberately unconcerned about it." (New Mexico: Alamo Square Press, 2000).
Scroggs, Robin. The New Testament and Homosexuality.
"This solid study constitutes the best resource book available on the question of what the New Testament does or does not say about homosexuality." (The Other Side) (Philadelphia: Fortress Press, 1983).
Wink, Walter (Ed.). Homosexuality and Christian Faith: Questions of Conscience for the Churches.
Resource with short pieces from church leaders--Protestant and Catholic, mainline and evangelical--who address fundamental moral imperatives about homosexuality. (Minneapolis: Fortress Press, 1999).
Theological / Spiritual
Alison, James. Faith Beyond Resentment: Fragments Catholic and Gay.
An English Catholic theologian who has lived in the UK, the US and Latin America looks at Catholic theology from a gay perspective, addressing both those who are not gay and those who are not Catholic. Offers an account of Christianity that is moving, liberating, and deeply personal. (New York: Crossroad, 2001).
Glaser, Chris. Coming Out to God: Prayers for Lesbians and Gay Men, Their Families and Friends.
"For Chris Glaser, prayer is a mysterious, wondrous yet earthy place where the dance of spirituality and sexuality is celebrated. His own fondest prayer for all of us is that we may be opened up to greet God's coming out - to us." (Malcolm Boyd) (Louisville: Westminster/John Knox, 1991).
Glaser, Chris. The Word Is Out: Daily Reflections on the Bible for Lesbians and Gay Men.
Chris Glaser liberates the Bible from those who would hold it hostage to an antigay agenda. In this inspiring and moving collection of 365 daily meditations, the Bible's good news "comes out" to meet us all with love, justice, meaning, and hope. (Book jacket) (Louisville: Westminster/John Knox, 1994).
Jung, Patricia Beattie, and Ralph F. Smith. Heterosexism: An Ethical Challenge.
In this ground-breaking book the authors show that the prevailing sexual ethic is no longer useful. This ethic presumes as ideal, a uniform morality based on a limited understanding of human sexuality. Heterosexism is revealed to be a system of prejudice that both grows out of and supports this ethic. It produces various forms of discrimination, particularly those against gay and lesbian people, that cannot be justified. (Book jacket.) (New York: State University of New York Press, 1993).
McNeill, John J. Taking A Chance on God: Liberating Theology for Gays, Lesbians, and their Lovers, Families, and Friends.
This book is essential reading for all gays and lesbians who seek to lead joyous, fulfilled lives within their church. Father John J. McNeill thoughtfully explains how both tradition and Scripture support the love between people of the same sex and shows that a positive gay identity is compatible with Christian faith. With its valuable insights into gay and lesbian spirituality, the book is indispensable not only for gay and lesbian Christians but for their families, lovers, and friends as well. (Book jacket). (Boston: Beacon Press, 1988).
Nelson, James B. Body Theology.
This unique book offers an incarnational way of doing theology. He takes body experiences seriously and views sexuality as central to the mystery of human experience and to the human relationship with God. He seeks to identify what scripture and tradition say about sexuality, focusing on three areas of concern: sexual theology, men's issues, and biomedical ethics. (Book jacket.) (Louisville: Westminster/John Knox Press, 1992).
Nelson, James B., and Sandra P. Longfellow (Eds.). Sexuality and the Sacred.
This volume is rooted in two convictions: first, sexuality is far more comprehensive and more fundamental to our existence than simply genital sex, and, second, sexuality is intended by God to be neither incidental nor detrimental to our spirituality but a fully integrated and basic dimension of that spirituality. The authors address what our sexual experience reveals about God, the ways we understand the gospel, and the ways we read scripture and tradition and attempt to live faithfully. (Book jacket) (Westminster/John Knox Press, 1994).
Scanzoni, Letha Dawson, and Virginia Ramey Mollenkott. (4th edition) Is the Homosexual My Neighbor? A Positive Christian Response.
A classic work calling Christians to love and acceptance. . . This revised and expanded edition is now more relevant than ever, with updated information on such key. . . topics as gays in the military, the AIDS crisis, and genetic research on homosexuality. Looking at homosexuality from scientific, psychological, and biblical perspectives, (this book) is both informative and compassionate--the ideal resource for Christians on our culture's hottest social debate. (Book jacket) (San Francisco: Harper, 1994).
Seow, Choon-Leong (Ed.). Homosexuality and Christian Community.
Contributors to this volume, all members of the Princeton Theological Seminary faculty, address the various exegetical, interpretive, and practical issues pertaining to the issue of homosexuality in the church. These include the ordination of homosexuals and the blessing of homosexual unions, as well as broader issues dealing with liturgical and theological language about God and the role of the church in a pluralistic society. Like the Christian community at large, the contributors are not of one mind on any of these issues: many times they are in considerable disagreement. This book will help to guide churches and individuals engaged in theological reflection about the place of homosexuals in the church. (Book jacket) (Louisville: Westminster/John Knox Press, 1996).
Siker, Jeffrey (Ed.). Homosexuality in the Church: Both Sides of the Debate.
Authorities on scripture, tradition, reason, biology, ethics and gendered experience discuss the place of homosexual people in the community of faith. Each perspective is explored by two writers-one more traditional, the other challenging the tradition. (Louisville: Westminster/John Knox, 1994).
Glaser, Chris. Uncommon Calling: A Gay Man's Struggle to Serve the Church.
One man's struggle to reconcile who God created him to be--a gay man-- with whom God called him to be--a minister. (Book jacket) (San Francisco: Harper, 1988).
McNaught, Brian. On Being Gay: Thoughts on Family, Faith and Love.
Intimate and personal reflection of what it means to be gay: whether or not to "come out," maintaining family ties, developing an honest relationship with God, building lasting love relationships, accepting oneself as decent and worthy of respect. (New York: St. Martin's Press, 1988).
Price, Deb, and Murdoch, Joyce. And Say Hi to Joyce: America's First Gay Column Comes Out.
"In these pages one sees a beauty, an honesty, and a commitment binding together two incredibly creative lives. Theirs is a love that once no one dared to name. However, because of people like Deb and Joyce and the message of this book, both the political structures and the religious traditions of this land will soon not only recognize their love, but will give it the honor it deserves." (The Right Reverend John Shelby Spong) (NY: Doubleday, 1995).
Spahr, Jane, et al. Called Out: The Voices of LGBT Presbyterians.
"This collection of forty essays is definitely that, for it injects into the Presbyterian Church's often heated dialogue on homosexuality real-life experiences and the glaring truth that those who are discarded from faith communities are often those with the most beautiful voices and the most authentic gifts. The authors share their stories here with candor, wit, and faith, with the result that anyone, regardless of their religion or denominational affiliation, will emerge from the pages of this book challenged and perhaps called to new accountability." -- R. Adam DeBaugh, Publisher Chi Rho Press. (Chi Rho Press, 1995).
Thorson-Smith, Sylvia, et al. Called Out With: Stories of Solidarity.
This is an edited work of stories written by heterosexual people in support of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons who desire opportunities for leadership within the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.). (Westminster John Knox Press, 1997)
Tigert, Leanne McCall. Coming Out Through Fire: Surviving the Trauma of Homophobia.
(United Church Press, 1999)
Parents (of gay sons or lesbian daughters)
Bernstein, Robert. Straight Parents, Gay Children.
Bernstein's and other's experiences with PFLAG, an organization that helps parents to achieve a fuller understanding and appreciation of human diversity. A call to action to love and accept their gay children, and to speak out on their behalf. (New York: Thunder's Mouth Press, 1995).
Borhek, Mary. Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbian Women and Gay Men and Their Parents.
Especially helpful for parents to understand what their children go through and children to understand what their parents go through. (Cleveland, OH: Pilgrim Press, 1993).
Jennings, Kevin. Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter.
"Every parent should read this book. It's a wonderful resource that I wish had been available to me." (Judy Shepard) (NY: Skylight Press, 2003).
Lopata, Mary Ellen. Fortunate Families: Catholic Families with Lesbian Daughters and Gay Sons.
Tells the stories of parents who often believe they must choose between their gay child and their church. More importantly, it shows that - in reality - this is not the case. (Victoria, British Columbia: Trafford, 2003). www.fortunatefamilies.org or www.trafford.com.
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). www.pflag.org.
Discussion Guides, Newsletters & Periodicals
The Inspiriter. A publication of the Association or Welcoming and Affirming Baptists. PO Box 2596, Attleboro Falls, MA 02763-0894. www.wabaptists.org.
Bridges of Respect: Creating Support for Lesbian & Gay Youth. A Resource Guide. (1989)
American Friends Service Committee. Community Relations Division, 1501 Cherry Street, Philadelphia, PA 19102.
National Association of Catholic Diocesan Lesbian and Gay Ministries. Newsletter. NACDLGM, 1647 Willow Pass Rd. #421, Concord, CA 94520. www.nacdlgm.org.
Bondings. A publication of New Ways Ministry, 4012 29th Street, Mt. Rainier, MD 20712. http://members.aol.com/newwaysm/.
"Seeds of Hope: Compassionate Ministry with Gay and Lesbian Catholics and their Families, A Practical Resource Manual." ($50) Also, "More Seeds." ($30). Designed for pastoral ministers who want to respond knowledgeably and compassionately when ministering with lesbian and gay Catholics and their families and friends and indeed with the whole faith community as they encounter this sensitive and challenging topic.
Review and Record. Quarterlies of Evangelicals Concerned, Inc., Edited by Ralph Blair, 311 East 72nd Street, New York, NY 10021.
Can We Talk About This? An audiotape and study guide for Christians preparing to discuss homosexuality, by Jeffrey Bessler, M.Div., M.S.W. (1989.) Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, Chicago. Write: ELCA Distribution Center, 426 South Fifth Street, Box 1209, Minneapolis, MN 55440.
Reconciling the Broken Silence: The Church in Dialogue on Gay and Lesbian Issues, by Sylvia Thorson-Smith. (1993.) Presbyterian Church (USA), Resource Development, Christian Education, Congregational Ministries Division, 100 Witherspoon Street, Louisville, KY 40202-1396
More Light Update, A monthly publication of More Light Presbyterians. www.mlp.org.
Society of Friends (Quakers)
Various materials from Friends for Lesbian and Gay Concerns (FLGC), A Quaker group for LGBTQ people. http://flgbtqc.quaker.org/.
United Church of Christ
Waves: National Newsletter of the United Church Coalition for Lesbian/Gay Concerns. Includes contact list of UCC Parents of Lesbians and Gays. Donna Enberg, P.O. Box 403, Holden, MA 01520.
United Methodist Church
Reconciling Ministries Network is a national grassroots organization that exists to enable full participation of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities in the life of the United Methodist Church, both in policy and practice. www.rmnetwork.org.